If you and your spouse have recently decided to file for a divorce, you are likely to be feeling a wide range of emotions. Depending on the circumstances, you may be feeling relieved, angry, regretful or ashamed. It’s common for those going through a divorce to feel extremely stressed, and as a result they may start to lose hope in a brighter future, or forget how it feels to be happy.
If you are going through a tough time emotionally as a result of your divorce filing, it is important that you are able to focus on your mental wellness as well as the more logistical aspects of divorce. The following are some reasons to be hopeful for post-divorce life.
This too shall pass
While you may feel like you are going through hell right now, this phase of your life will not last forever. There will come a time when the storm subsides and you will once again feel at peace. Try to remember that the stress associated with the divorce is all temporary.
You have an opportunity to reinvent yourself
It’s true that you’ll lose a part of yourself with the end of the marriage. You will no longer have the identity of being a spouse, and part of your identity will be no more. While this is something that you may need to grieve, you should also see it as an opportunity for some type of rebirth. With the loss of some aspect of your identity comes the possibility of reinvention. Ask yourself who you want to be, and become it.
You are leaving a toxic situation
If you are feeling terrible right now, it’s likely that you were in a toxic relationship. But the fact is that you are in the process of leaving it. Therefore, things should only get better from here.
There are so many reasons to be hopeful for post-divorce life. The better you are able to plan your divorce, the smoother the process will be.
