In recent years, fathers have become more involved than ever in post-divorce parenting. Today, many divorced, noncustodial dads share decision-making power and responsibilities over aspects of their children's lives. This is a far cry from the situation in decades gone by where divorced fathers typically saw their children every other weekend and during vacations.
We recommend these steps to maintain regular contact and a solid relationship with your children:
- Respect your former spouse. Avoid exposing children to your disrespectful comments about the other parent. This is likely to pay off in years to come as your children come to recognize your restraint and maturity.
- Keep conflicts to a minimum. Maintaining a stable and amicable relationship with your ex-spouse encourages more flexibility on both sides in matters concerning your parenting arrangements.
- Play a part in your child's day-to-day life. You can build a closer relationship with your child when you share in routine aspects of the child's life. Do this by taking your child to the dentist, for a haircut or to extracurricular activities, or having lunch at a child's school or attending school conferences.
- Ensure you live close to your children. Parents who live in close proximity to their children are likely to spend more time with them. As children grow older and are able to travel independently, there is a higher chance that they may visit you.
It is important for noncustodial parents to be aware of their rights. Minnesota statutes give most parents the right to reasonable access and telephone contact with their minor children. If your former spouse becomes obstructive and interferes with your visitation arrangements, speak with an attorney.
We advise divorced fathers and those going through the divorce process about the many legal matters involved. If you would like to discuss child custody laws or any family law matter, call Hess & Jendro Law Office, P.A.'s compassionate divorce lawyers at 763.241.4855, or contact us online.